This is a post dedicated to myself, someone who recently turned from a perfectionist into a nothing-doer.
I have a long list of the tons of things that need to be accomplished before I travel to Germany, which I realized will be in less than two weeks, and I am postponing everything.
Now, this is for you, Laila (and now I started talking to myself, too :)):
How to overcome laziness (wikihow)
- Whatever task is at hand, take a step back, relax and see one small thing to do, EG, if your whole house isn’t fit to live in, just focus on one task, not the whole problem.
- Estimate how long it would take to do that one thing. Forget everything else, for now 🙂
- After the ‘small’ task is complete, go for a walk for two or three minutes.Who knows maybe you’ll bump into a new best friend or something.
- If you set yourself just one small task each day and go out for the recommended time every day afterwards,(or relax doing something you would like to if you have already been out) you will find yourself doing a little more each and every day.
- All I saw was a whole house to clean and washing and ironing etc but after started to give myself just ‘one small task, say, the washing up , at a realistic 5 mins to do, I went for a walk and chilled, it was lovely. Hope you get on well. Maybe this will give you some ideas of your own, but coursework is another story.
- Set some goals. If you have goals set up for yourself, you have something to look forward to (not to mention a paycheck) Your goals can be to work hard, then in 1 or two years (depending on your profession) you can take that trip to Italy, or Hawaii. Pick goals which are high and will really inspire you. Picture what you really want. Low goals will not really motivate you. Your goals can be to save to buy your dream home, that red sports car, or save to fullfill your lifelong dreams (maybe you’ve been wanting to open a bookstore, an arcade, or start your own publishing company). Make a to-do list, both of large and small things, and prioritize.
- Coach yourself. For each goal in your list, break it down into tiny, easily manageable steps. Then, talk yourself into working towards the next tiny step. Gear yourself up into action by telling yourself something like: “you gotta do this; you gotta do this NOW; just do it; don’t rest now”. Say it out loud if you have to! You’ll find that you will have eventually talked yourself into wanting to do it! Finishing that little step will feel remarkably good, and tell yourself (out loud, if necessary): “good stuff; you’re on a roll; keep this up and you’re gonna make it to the end of this”. Then, repeat this for your next tiny step. Working towards little goals is actually the secret to big success: big successes are just made up of many little continuous successes.
- Reward yourself! You need to reward yourself for completing each task, in order to feel good about having stressed yourself in order to get the job done. Go for a walk, eat some nuts (Lee Iacocca famously ate salted nuts after each tiny step). Doing this will train your mind into wanting to work. As well, cumulative rewards make you feel confident — and that’s the REAL cure for laziness. Some say you may also want to punish yourself for each step you fail to achieve, but this is ill-advised if you’re really lazy, as it will only reinforce the negative behavior that ultimately leads to laziness: avoidance of the prospect of failure.
- Get un-stuck fast! It’s one thing to find your motivation. But, it’s another thing to keep it going when the going gets tough — especially when it’s an unforeseen problem! The “lazier” a person you are, the more you will feel like giving up. The trick here is knowing how to get past the tough point. To do this, tell yourself: “I really want to get past this; I really want to overcome this”, until you believe that you actually don’t want to give up. Then, you need to FIGURE OUT what one, single detail or problem is holding you back. It won’t be too hard to isolate it, but remember: it’s probably one single, specific problem or detail. Now, think. Is it something you can actually afford to ignore? Is it something that somebody else can help you with? Can you just forget about this and try a different approach altogether? Are you being too much of a perfectionist? (Remember: the only enemy of something ‘good’ is something ‘better’!) Most likely, the sticking issue is smaller than you think it is, and you can get past it more easily than you think. Whatever it is, don’t give up until you find a way to get past it somehow. Once you do, remember to reward yourself.
- Don’t stop now. It’s hard to get on a roll if you’re lazy, so once you’re there, jump right onto your next goal as soon as you’re done rewarding yourself. The later you delay re-starting, the harder it will be to re-start. But, the sooner you re-start, the more confident you will feel — and that will reinforce the positive behavior that leads to doing away with your laziness forever: feeling that you can do anything!
- If you do not work or need to leave your house first thing in the morning – set your alarm to wake up at a decent morning hour – say 7 am. Shower, get dressed and make yourself look presentable before leaving your room. (Make your bed so it doesn’t appeal to you later.)
- Make sure you’re on a healthy diet; junk food doesn’t give your body the nutrients it needs to be active.
- Get exercise. Go jogging through your neighborhood a few times a week, and in time you will see an improvement in the way that you feel, and look. Working out will give you a lot of motivation, and keep you from getting or feeling lazy.
- Use common sense, picture the demon and the angel on you shoulder, and try to use common sense. If you’re a kid and you know if you don’t throw away the garbage, your parents will scream at you. The simple solution to that is to just use common sense and put the remote down and go do what you have to do.
- Dream big and work towards that Dream!!If you were to live for a 1000 years and stay young for 999 years what would you do?
Originally Posted By Laila Hussein to Thoughts & Tips at 3/15/2008 07:06:00 PM